Relationships

Validation Validation Validation

For the realtor, the world revolves around Location Location Location. But psychologists, psychiatrists, and social scientists everywhere know that…

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Big Boys Don’t Cry: The Emotionally Neglected Man

  Luke prepares himself to walk into the office party. Despite his reputation as the most helpful and productive salesperson in the company,…

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When the Narcissist Becomes Dangerous

Recently at a dinner party, talk turned to the current news story about Bill Cosby. As the only psychologist at the table, everyone looked at me as…

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4 Things Psychologists Know That You Should Know Too

It's fun being a psychologist. Just as an engineer is fascinated by the true mechanics of electrical circuitry, we mental health professionals are…

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Do You Have Emotional Integrity?

Here is the Merriam-Webster Dictionary’s definition of Integrity: The quality of being honest and fair; the state of being complete or whole;…

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9 Steps to Reach Your Emotionally Neglected Spouse

My husband says he loves me, but I don’t feel love from him. My wife gets confused, overwhelmed or frustrated every time I try to talk to her…

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How to Tell Emotional Neglect From Emotional Abuse in a Relationship

Let’s face it, relationships are complicated. I wish I had a dollar for every time someone has asked me, “Is this normal?” about their…

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Seven Steps to Speak Your Uncomfortable Truth

Abigail needs to tell her adult son Mark that she thinks he has a drinking problem. Simon needs to tell his wife Lisa that he’s afraid he…

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What Everyone Should Know About Emotional Affairs

As a couple’s therapist, I’ve worked with many people whose marriages are threatened by an affair. When it comes to affairs, there are two types:…

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Are You Living Life On The Outside?

Real belonging requires us to be authentically ourselves. Brene Brown Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN): A parent’s failure to respond enough…

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5 Steps To Break Down Your Wall

The fuel of life is feeling. If we are not filled up in childhood, we must fill ourselves as adults. Otherwise we will find ourselves running on…

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Make Every Day Valentine’s Day

Give Your Valentine the Best Gift Ever: Emotional Attunement  Candy and flowers are lovely Valentine gifts for your special someone, but what…

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The Seven False Beliefs About Relationships

 The Seven False Beliefs About Relationships People who grew up in households with low tolerance for emotion tend to carry particular beliefs about…

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