Emotional Neglect

Were You A Needy Child? There is No Such Thing

  A Question Posted on my CEN Sharing Page by Anonymous: My mother has complained about my behavior as a child for YEARS. When I was…

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Are You Prone to Depression? This Could Be the Reason

Your emotions are the most deeply personal, biological part of who you are. They are also your greatest resource for coping and strength. Legions of…

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Big Boys Don’t Cry – The Emotionally Neglected Man

Luke prepares himself to walk into the office party. Despite his reputation as the most helpful and productive salesperson in the company, his…

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Love and Wealth are Not Enough

What's the most important ingredient for a happy life? Philosophers, clergy, psychologists and researchers of all kinds have offered opinions on…

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Grow Your Anger Vocabulary

The one emotion that many CEN people struggle with the most is anger. When you grow up in a home where your emotions aren't accepted, you learn that…

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20 Questions to Raise Your Resilience – Childhood Emotional Neglect

Will has no idea how he ended up in his career. In hindsight, he has some regrets…. Jonathan continually dates the wrong women, and then is…

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How to Tell Emotional Neglect From Emotional Abuse in a Relationship

Let’s face it, relationships are complicated. I wish I had a dollar for every time someone has asked me, “Is this normal?” about their…

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Why Don’t Therapists Talk More About Emotional Neglect?

Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN): A parent’s failure to respond enough to a child’s emotional needs. "After reading Running on Empty I told my…

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Validation Validation Validation

  For the realtor, the world revolves around Location Location Location. But psychologists, psychiatrists, and social scientists everywhere…

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Emotionally Neglected in a Highly Emotional Family

"I scored high on the Emotional Neglect Questionnaire, but I actually grew up in a family that was the opposite of what you describe. My family was…

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Invalidated Child, Invisible Adult

Our childhoods are in the past. As adults, we must put childhood behind us and focus on the now. Right? Wrong. Today we know that our child…

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Raised By Parents With Low Emotional Intelligence

Ten-year-old Jasmine lies alone on her bed, glad to be sequestered behind the closed doors of her room.  “It could happen,” she whispers quietly…

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Emotional Neglect: What We Accomplished!

This morning I started thinking about this past year, taking stock of the progress we've made in getting more people to know and think and talk about…

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What Do You Wish Your Parents Had Said To You?

"CEN is, by definition, nothing. How can nothing be something? How can nothing be a source of enduring pain and struggle? It seems unfathomable……

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Childhood Emotional Neglect: Man vs. Woman

"CEN people, both men and women, are exceptionally likable folk. This is part of the tragedy of CEN. These are some of the most lovable people in the…

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Recommended Reading for Childhood Emotional Neglect

Recently I was interviewed for a podcast on the Personality Disorders Awareness Network which took questions from listeners. One of the questions was…

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“Why Can’t You Just Be Happy?” How to Heal a CEN Marriage

My husband says he loves me, but I don’t feel love from him. My wife gets confused and overwhelmed every time I try to talk to her about a…

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How to Deal With Your Emotionally Neglectful Parents

Now that I see what my parents didn’t give me, how do I continue to interact with them? Should I tell my parents how they failed me? If I…

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Childhood Emotional Neglect and Assertiveness Don’t Mix

“What do you think?” “How do you feel?” “What do you need?” “What do you have to say?” Imagine a child, let’s call him…

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How to Find a Therapist for Childhood Emotional Neglect

  I’ve seen several therapists in the past, and none of them  talked about CEN with me. My therapist talks about Emotional Neglect, but…

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On the Outside

   I feel like I'm on the outside, looking in Whoever I'm with, I don't feel I fit in I look fine, but I don't feel fine   The…

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Empty

    The Definition of Empty: "Not Filled" Everyone knows what the word “empty” means. It's a simple word, easily understood.  But…

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How to Identify Childhood Emotional Neglect in Your Clients

For Mental Health Professionals As clinicians, we all know how to see and diagnose depression, anxiety, phobias, substance dependence as well as a…

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Emotional Neglect Questionnaire

Are you wondering if Emotional Neglect applies to you? Take this questionnaire to find out. Circle the questions to which your answer is…

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What Didn’t Happen

What didn’t happen to you as a child? Over 20 years of practicing psychology, I started to see a factor from people’s childhoods that weighs…

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Reverse Golden Rule: Treat Yourself as You Would Treat Others

  "What the heck is wrong with you?" "You are an idiot." "How could you make such a stupid mistake?"   These may sound like nasty,…

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About Emotional Neglect — For Mental Health Professionals

“The Definition of Emotional Neglect:  When a parent fails to respond enough to a child’s emotional needs.”              As a…

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Emotional Neglect and Self-Discipline

Several months ago I was at a dinner party. It was late in the evening, after dinner, and we were all sitting around the table talking. I mentioned…

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