Emotional Neglect & Healing

Emotional Neglect and Emotional Deprivation are Not the Same

Most people, even mental health professionals, do not think about emotional deprivation and emotional neglect as two separate things. And I…

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Black Sheep

“I’m the black sheep of my family,” said the young man who sat before me in my therapy office. I tried to imagine this adorable, sad young man…

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Big Boys Don’t Cry: The Emotionally Neglected Man

  Luke prepares himself to walk into the office party. Despite his reputation as the most helpful and productive salesperson in the company,…

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Man vs. Woman: The Effects of Childhood

Do boys and girls respond differently to the same childhood experiences? How do those differences play out as the boy becomes a man, and the girl…

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4 Things Psychologists Know That You Should Know Too

It's fun being a psychologist. Just as an engineer is fascinated by the true mechanics of electrical circuitry, we mental health professionals are…

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5 Steps To Break Down Your Wall

The fuel of life is feeling. If we are not filled up in childhood, we must fill ourselves as adults. Otherwise we will find ourselves running on…

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Are You Prone to Depression? This Could Be the Reason

Your emotions are the most deeply personal, biological part of who you are. They are also your greatest resource for coping and strength. Legions of…

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Childhood Emotional Neglect: Man vs. Woman

"CEN people, both men and women, are exceptionally likable folk. This is part of the tragedy of CEN. These are some of the most lovable people in the…

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How to Deal With Your Emotionally Neglectful Parents

Now that I see what my parents didn’t give me, how do I continue to interact with them? Should I tell my parents how they failed me? If I…

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Childhood Emotional Neglect and Assertiveness Don’t Mix

“What do you think?” “How do you feel?” “What do you need?” “What do you have to say?” Imagine a child, let’s call him…

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How to Find a Therapist for Childhood Emotional Neglect

  I’ve seen several therapists in the past, and none of them  talked about CEN with me. My therapist talks about Emotional Neglect, but…

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On the Outside

   I feel like I'm on the outside, looking in Whoever I'm with, I don't feel I fit in I look fine, but I don't feel fine   The…

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Empty

    The Definition of Empty: "Not Filled" Everyone knows what the word “empty” means. It's a simple word, easily understood.  But…

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How to Identify Childhood Emotional Neglect in Your Clients

For Mental Health Professionals As clinicians, we all know how to see and diagnose depression, anxiety, phobias, substance dependence as well as a…

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Emotional Neglect Questionnaire

Are you wondering if Emotional Neglect applies to you? Take this questionnaire to find out. Circle the questions to which your answer is…

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What Didn’t Happen

What didn’t happen to you as a child? Over 20 years of practicing psychology, I started to see a factor from people’s childhoods that weighs…

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Reverse Golden Rule: Treat Yourself as You Would Treat Others

  "What the heck is wrong with you?" "You are an idiot." "How could you make such a stupid mistake?"   These may sound like nasty,…

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About Emotional Neglect — For Mental Health Professionals

“The Definition of Emotional Neglect:  When a parent fails to respond enough to a child’s emotional needs.”              As a…

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Emotional Neglect and Self-Discipline

Several months ago I was at a dinner party. It was late in the evening, after dinner, and we were all sitting around the table talking. I mentioned…

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